Adult Children Losing $3 Trillion in Caring for Aging Parents

Americans who take time off work to care for their aging parents are losing an estimated $3 trillion dollars in wages, pension and Social Security benefits, according to a new MetLife study. Meanwhile, the percentage of adult children providing basic care for their parents has skyrocketed in recent years. 

Nearly 10 million adults age 50 and over care for an aging parent, MetLife says. For the individual female caregiver, the cost impact of caregiving in terms of lost wages, pension and Social Security benefits averages $324,044. For male caregivers, the figure is $283,716. 

The study also identified a dramatic rise in the share of men and women providing basic parental care over the past decade and a half. In 1994, only 9 percent of women and 3 percent of men and were providing care. By 2008, the percentage of women caregivers had more than tripled to 28 percent, while the figure for men had quintupled to 17 percent. "Basic care" is defined as help with personal activities like dressing, feeding, and bathing. Daughters are more likely to provide basic care and sons are more likely to provide financial assistance, the study found. 

"Undoubtedly, the impact of the aging population has resulted in increased need within families for family caregiving support," the study notes. 

At the same time, MetLife found that adult children age 50 and over who work and provide care to a parent are more likely to have fair or poor health than those who do not provide care to their parents. 

The study was based on an analysis of data from the 2008 National Health and Retirement Study (HRS). 

The findings have implications for individuals, employers and policymakers, MetLife says. Individuals, it says, should consider their own health when caregiving and should prepare financially for their own retirement. Employers can provide retirement planning and stress management information and assist employees with accommodations like flex-time and family leave. 

On the policy side, although only a few states mandate paid family and medical leave, "clearly this policy would benefit working caregivers who need to take leave to care for an aging parent," the study concludes. MetLife also notes that the CLASS Act, a voluntary long-term care insurance program that is part of the new federal health reform law, will provide some coverage for long-term care needs as well as raise public awareness of the issue. 

For more on the study, "The MetLife Study of Caregiving Costs to Working Caregivers: Double Jeopardy for Baby Boomers Caring for Their Parents," click here.

Reprinted with permission by ElderLawAnswers.com

Prevent Your Power of Attorney from Being Ignored

A durable power of attorney is one of the most important estate planning documents there is. It allows someone you appoint -- your agent or "attorney-in-fact" -- to act in your place for financial purposes when and if you ever become incapacitated. However, many people experience difficulty in getting banks or other financial institutions to recognize the authority of an agent under a power of attorney.

Banks are often reluctant to accept powers of attorney for fear of being sued if the power of attorney isn't valid. A certain amount of caution on the part of financial institutions is understandable. Still, some institutions go overboard, for example requiring that the attorney-in-fact indemnify them against any loss.

To prevent problems later, contact your bank when you execute your power of attorney to find out what information it needs to accept the document. Many banks or other financial institutions have their own standard power of attorney forms. If this is the case, get the bank's form and sign it in addition to your own power of attorney form. While, it isn't legally necessary, signing the bank's form can save your agent a lot of trouble and time down the road. In addition, you can provide the bank with copies of your power of attorney. It is also a good idea to update your power of attorney frequently so the bank knows it is current.

If a bank is giving you a hard time about accepting a power of attorney, you can try talking your way up the chain of command. You can also have the lawyer who prepared the power of attorney call the bank. If that doesn't work, you may have to have a lawyer deal with the bank.

What Is Estate Planning?

The definition of Estate Planning is easy: it is a plan for your estate.  Your estate is what you own; it is your stuff. 

If you become mentally incapacitated, perhaps by accident or illness, you can no longer manage your stuff.  You can't buy or sell what you need, pay you bills, or file your taxes.  Someone will have to do this for you.  If you plan for this with Powers of Attoney or Trusts, you get to choose who helps you manage your stuff.  If you don't, a judge will choose someone for you after an expensive court proceeding.  You may not agree with the judges choice and it may be a stranger who is charging you hourly.

When you pass away, the ownership of you stuff must pass to someone else (sorry).  If you plan in advance for this, you get to choose who gets what, when they get it and how they get it.  You even get to avoid taxes that will be due if no planning is done.  You can do this by getting a Will or Revocable Living Trust.  You can also control who gets what with beneficiary designations such as with life insurance and retirement accounts.  Bank accounts can be designated Payable on Death (POD) to your beneficiary.  You can also own an asset jointly with someone else so that they become the sole owner if you die.  If you do not plan in advance, the law sets forth who gets what.

A typical Estate Plan may have a Will, Trust, Financial Power of Attorney, Healthcare Power of Attorney and a Living Will.  This planning is really not so much for you but for your loved ones.  If you have an Estate Plan, check to see if it needs an update.  If you don't have a plan, get one.  Your loved one's will thank you someday.

What Is An Estate?

As an estate planning attorney, the term "estate" has a specific meaning to me.  Yet I am constantly reminded that the term "estate" often means something else to others.  For example, prospective clients often say to me "I don't need estate planning, I only need a Will". 

What does the word "estate" mean to you?  I used to picture a mansion in the English countryside surrounded by a large well manicured lawn behind an iron gate and brick walls.  Law school changed that meaning for me. 

Your estate is simply what you own in your own name or jointly with others.  So your estate may include a house, car, bank accounts and investment accounts like mutual funds or other stocks and bonds.  Your retirement plan, such as an IRA or 401k is part of your estate.  The value of your insurance policy is part of your estate even though someone else is getting the money.  Other estate assets are debts owed to you and the value of any business you may own.  Your estate even includes your "stuff" like the contents of your home.

So we all have an "estate".  You can plan ahead to decide what should happen to your estate should you die or become incapacitated.  There is a term for planning ahead like that, wait ... it is on the tip of my tongue ... Estate Planning!

Usernames + Passwords + Estate Planning?

With the constant fear of online identity theft, we create strong and varied passwords for all of our accounts. In fact, we even change these passwords often and never write them down or share them with anyone.That's all well and good while we are alive, but this safe protective measure taken while living can wreak havoc for our heirs after we die. With an increasing portion of our personal lives stored online in password-restricted accounts -- including bank accounts, automatic bill-pay arrangements, personal messages and even items with small monetary but major sentimental value, such as photos -- piecing together an estate after a death can cause major headaches. Let’s use banking as an example: If you have an online savings account separate from your regular bank account and the statement notifications are only emailed, not mailed, that account may get overlooked when your finances are disbursed to beneficiaries. Attorneys today are faced with days of searching for some accounts and other personal online site access - a costly task that can be avoided.

Why should I pay a lawyer a lot of money for some simple documents?

You can buy software that produces most of the estate planning documents an attorney will prepare for you. Using such documents could turn out all right for you and your heirs, but things could go horribly wrong as well, and you'll never know if you did it right until it's too late. You could end up paying a nursing home unnecessarily or your heirs could pay unnecessary taxes or expend legal fees fighting each other.

Only a qualified attorney can educate clients on what issues they should be aware of in their individual circumstances and then recommend appropriate language to deal with the client's specific situation. Do you have a taxable estate? Do you own significant amounts of tax-deferred retirement plans? Do you know how to fund the revocable trust provided on the computer program? Is there anything about your estate that is unusual, such as having a disabled child? In short, if there's anything about your situation that's not plain vanilla, you need to see a lawyer. And only a lawyer can determine whether your situation qualifies as "plain vanilla." As with joint accounts, the problems you may create by not getting competent legal advice probably won't be yours, but may well be your children's. Do you want to risk leaving that legacy?